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the four answers “yes”
Posted by Daniel in the needs, the observations, the understanding on August 8, 2011
Given my current circumstances it isn’t out of the ordinary that I’ve been thinking a lot about women and dating. I realized over the weekend that there are really only two big things that need to be in place for two people to work, and those two things have to go both ways.
two opposing lessons
Posted by Daniel in the bad, the good, the needs, the observations, the understanding on January 23, 2011
I’m realizing now, more than ever, that I have a really hard time simply asking for what I want.
I’m not the kind of person to blame my own faults on past circumstances, but it does help to go over what might have reinforced bad thinking.
I’ve always had low self-esteem. Slowly, in one life area at a time, that’s getting better. But this personal stuff (friends, love, sex, etc), that’s still the last part to go.
these four walls
Posted by Daniel in the needs, the observations, the understanding on January 22, 2011
four walls provide shelter.
protection from rain and sun.
a buffer from the cold and heat.
a quiet place to find rest.
four walls do not provide life.
it doesn’t seep from the foundation.
it doesn’t blow in through the cracks.
it doesn’t drip from the light fixture
every time it rains.
life is made from love and laughter.
life is forged out of respect and admiration.
life is built through trust and participation.
a conflict of priorities
Posted by Daniel in the needs, the observations, the understanding on October 6, 2010
I’m always in conflict with myself about what should come first. Priorities. For life in general, yeah. But mostly, in regard to raising my child.
A friend recently made the analogy of the parent who misses the recital because they are working over time to pay for the costume. I wonder if working overtime is even worth it. Maybe we should just skip the recital entirely? At the same time, I want my kid to have everything those other kids have, and more. And “recital” works it’s way into that list, some how, even though deep down I know the ways and means are almost always more important than the ends.
a beautiful storm
I only hope
that the storms stay for one more night –
the quiet tip-tap turning
to roaring and pounding then
back to tip-tap again.
I only dream
of rain drops speckled on the shoulders
that lean so comfortably into me,
hair clinging to the sides of your face
in the same paths that I would
draw my fingers down again and again.
I only wish
that when the storm lifts
the moon is shining full
upon curves now glistening
in the blueish light.
The secure rise and fall of breath –
the peace of being that sits
before the next beautiful storm.
a color unseen
Posted by Daniel in the good, the needs, the observations on December 29, 2009
Before a child understands the concept of ”color”, explaining to them what “red” is is not possible. You must, instead, show them what red is. We simply lack the words to describe color. We can list things that are red. We can talk about feelings and ideas that share the essence of the color red. We can talk about what the color red means to us. But in the end, without seeing it, you simply can’t understand it.
all the riches money can’t buy
Posted by Daniel in the good, the needs, the observations on December 11, 2009
They’re really not so different than us, wealthy people. You’d think with so much money and fame and fortune that their lives would be remarkably different. And on the surface they are. Everything they have is bigger, everything has nicer labels on it, and there are some problems that simply don’t exist when you have enough money to throw around. But once you get under the surface, everything else is the same.
can you leave your window open?
outside looking in
I play the part well. Everything is okay. I’ve got everything under control. Not only is this easy, it’s reallllllly easy. I’m surprised that everyone doesn’t do it. On purpose even.
postponing overwhelm
another tunnel
I’ve been tricking myself lately. Surprisingly, it’s been working, but I’m not sure for how much longer.